Sarah from PoshDeluxe has inspired me to upload some vintage pics to my Flickr. And, since my narcissism runs deep, there’s gotta be tons of me! 🙂
As you can see, from a very young age, I always had the mad skillz. Which may be why I get into trouble like this so often….
On a side note, check out Sarah’s blog. She’s hilarious! I love her! Oh! And she posted a link to this story, which you must, must read — so cute, I nearly died.
Some days, I feel like no matter how hard I work, my inbox grows faster than I can keep pace with it. I am busy, busy, busy, all day, and it looks as if I didn’t do a thing. I begin to despair over its overflowing and unruly state. It starts to become so bad that I can’t even SEE my inbox:
But then, I happen to catch a glance at my boss’s inbox and realize that it could be much, MUCH worse:
And then, I feel better. 🙂
“Do not kiss your children so they will kiss you back, but so they will kiss their children and their children’s children.” — Noah benShea
In an aside, the days of double-fisted coffee drinking have begun again! Pumpkin spice lattes are back at Starbucks! 🙂 And after this weekend…I need it!!!
Have you ever gotten one of those quizzes where they asked you a series of questions to determine your survivability if you were ever a character in a horror flick?
Yeah, well I had a “horror flick” type of experience, and let me tell you, I broke every horror flick survival rule. Here’s the story:
Yesterday, I got home after a talk at OLGC around 10 pm. I parked my car up the driveway by the back door, as usual. The motion light for the back door comes on, and I get out of the car. I hear a male voice coming from the front yard/driveway call out, “Hello.” I turn to look, but because I am in the light and everything is dark — I can’t see a thing.
So, I call back, “Hello?”
I hear nothing.
Critical error #1: I start walking towards the voice. I’m still kinda blind because of the light and can’t even see the location of the person. But, I figure, I have to get the mail anyway, right? I call out, “Who is it? I can’t see you!”
No answer. This is not good. I have an unknown male at an unknown location not too far from me, who is not telling me who he is.
Critical error #2: I continue to walk towards the mailbox/person. He says something like “Hello” again. Again, I say that I can’t see them, and ask who it is. No reply.
Critical error #3: I continue walking, blindly, towards the person, who I see now as a shadowy male figure, whom I cannot identify. I am a little concerned that it’s either the one neighbor, or the creepy neighbor. Finally, a little sense enters my brain and I think to myself that maybe walking right up to this person is not the best decision to have made. With this realization:
Critical error #4: I keep going! Whoo! No sense of self-preservation in this girl! I am such a good, cooperative little victim, eh? It would probably serve me right if it were the Spawn of Chucky at the end of the driveway waiting for me with a machete.
So, I completely flunked my horror flick quiz. When I finally got to the end of the driveway, I didn’t immediately recognize the man, since he normally walks around the block wearing a hat. It was the nice Albanian gentleman who lives sort of across the street from me. He doesn’t really speak English, so he probably didn’t know what I was asking him as I walked up the driveway. He has 3 adult children with families who also have houses on my street.
He said “Hi” again when I got up to him. Communication was a little hard, because I don’t speak Albanian, and he doesn’t speak English. After a few hellos, he was still hanging at my driveway, and I didn’t know why he was there. Did he need help with something? I asked how he was doing — if he was good, and he said “Good. Good.” I became worried that I had cut him off or something when I had turned into my driveway when he was out for his walk, and tried to ask him about this, but I don’t think he understood what I was asking, and in any case did not appear to be upset or anything, just pleasant. I asked what he had been doing, or how his day was, or something like that, and he replied, “8 o’clock – work; 4 o’clock – work; 8 o’clock – work; 10 o’clock,” and he shrugs. I thought that he was talking about something in his day. Then, I came to realize that he was making a comment about how I am never home.
He must have seen that I was confused or concerned or something, because then he was giving me a big bear hug and saying, “I sorry. I sorry.” Then, we just kind of smiled and laughed and he gave me another hug, and I grabbed my mail and we went our separate ways.
So, while it turned out to be a good experience, children, don’t try this at home! Some alternative reactions that were suggested to me by my coworkers were: 1) stay/get back into the car or 2) call the police or 3) go inside your house as if you hadn’t heard the “Hello.”
Please pray for Fr. John today. 😦
Thanks!!!!
I know that I’m messed up in many ways, but particularly in the area of love. I frequently think and feel that I have no value, sometimes even that I am not quite a person. Spiritually sick, I know. I’m working on it, but I’m not really sure how to go about getting better. For me, my worth and my loveableness (is that a word? well, it is now!) are entirely wrapped up in how useful I am to others. I have been so deeply mired in the culture of death that wrong-thinking follows me everywhere and colors all of my interactions, as I suspect it does for many people, if they really critically look at how they relate with others. But sadly, most people do not think and do not really examine their actions and thoughts except on a superficial level.
Don’t think that I am exempt from this! Ha! But, I want to work on going deeper than just superficial things to really attack the heart of the matter. I don’t want to be sick, but I suppose that I can’t keep my head in the sand when it comes to my sins and the various ways in which I just don’t get it.
It is pretty much safe to say that I am messed up, topically, on anything that has to do with the Theology of the Body. It’s very hard to give a gift of yourself when you don’t think that your self is anything worth giving. If I am nothing important, than giving me to someone else isn’t that great of a gift.
Okay, that’s definitely a work in progress, and one that is just beginning at that. On to love, since that topic is intermeshed in the whole Theology of the Body topic. Obviously, I need a lot of help to learn what it means to truly love another person as God loves. Sure, I’ve had experience with the warm fuzzies, and with wanting good things for others, but to truly love as God loves, it needs to go beyond that.
Truly, thanks be to God, for He is helping me with this. It has long been the case, (or at least nearly as long as I’ve been Catholic, so about a year and a half or so) that I’ve felt that God has given me a specific person to teach me what it means to love another. I didn’t want to like this person, much less love him. I would have been perfectly happy to avoid this person and interact with him on a need-only basis. Nothing against the person at all, but I was uncomfortable in his presence and a little frightened of him — for no reason — and had made up my mind to minimize interaction.
Well, we all know what happens when we tell God our plans. I think He’s still laughing at me.
So, God made it so that I came to love this person. He is my example and my lesson. It isn’t just that by watching how he interacts with people that I learn what it is like to give of yourself to others, even though he is a good example in his own actions as far as I can tell. But it is more that God has so put him on my heart, that I can’t help but learn, despite how messed up I am. Believe me when I say that I can objectify anyone and take anyone for granted and be as mean and self-centered as anyone else. Except with this person.
And, because I am just that sick, I tried. That’s right, I’ve tried to see if I could think bad things or fantasize inappropriately or something like this. Not that I particularly wanted to sin, or to invite temptation or anything — that wasn’t my intention — but I didn’t know what this was and I wanted, I suppose, to probe the depths of my sickness and see just how sick I was. “Am I **this** bad??” But no. Yes, with other people, there is no end to my imagination. But with this person, I cannot go there. I try to think of these things, and the thought just slips away from me like a greased bubble. What an awesome grace that is! Truly! I wish I had that for everyone! I was concerned, too, for a while that I had some sort of sick obsession or fixation, but this has absolutely nothing to do with romantic love and doesn’t have a selfish aspect to it that I can tell. It doesn’t have anything to do with what I can “get” from the relationship. I am just thrilled with the fact that he exists. And how wonderful it is to know that even through death, there is the possibility of seeing that person again in Heaven. Assuming that I make that Purgatory cut-off.
For this person, I always want what is good for him, even if that is not what is also good for me. I have true concern for him and he is the only person that I automatically pray for every day. Not that there aren’t other people that I pray for every day, because I do have several people that I pray for on a daily basis. The difference is, for this person, it’s not something that I think about. I can’t help but pray for him daily. It’s not a burden or a box to check or an afterthought or a list or anything like that, but a concern to make sure that God knows to take care of this person. I am constantly bringing him before the Lord in prayer. God probably laughs at me for that, too. 🙂
Truly, Thank You, Lord, for this. If I am paying attention, I can try to catch myself in my interactions with others and substitute this other person to see if my actions and thoughts are truly loving. If I would react differently, then I know that I am being less than truly loving, and that I need to adjust what it is that I am doing.
So, what prompts me to write all of this today? Not really for the sake of telling you all this. Actually, it is quite embarrassing to me. I think people will take it the wrong way, or think that I do have some weird, disordered attachment. So, if it were up to me, I wouldn’t say anything. But, this morning, I think I was taught another lesson, and if I am to relate that to you, then I needed to give you some background. Sorry it took so long, but that’s the way I roll. 🙂
Not too long ago, I was in a conversation with a group of people, and the topic eventually came around to this person. Nothing was said which was bad, and everyone there truly liked and cared for this person, but for some reason it was unsettling to me. I didn’t really have anything to contribute to the conversation, and was mostly listening, and maybe, somehow that was worse. Like I was hearing things I didn’t need to hear. Again, not that I was hearing dark secrets or anything like that, but just — I don’t know — personal things that either should come from him directly, or not at all. It was a passing feeling that I managed to brush off. Feelings come and go, and I know that the people there loved him as well, so it must just be that I was being silly, because it was all benign.
Then, this morning on the way to Mass, I was recalling this conversation, and for whatever reason, I just felt heartsick about it and felt like I should apologize to him. For exactly what, I wasn’t sure, but it felt a little bit like…a violation, perhaps. Ooh, just typing that sounds so harsh. And it wasn’t like that. Don’t think anything bad about the people in the conversation. I think it has much less to do with them, because their comments really were benign, and more to do with the fact that God is using (again) this person in this situation to teach me a lesson about love.
It has been said that if you truly love a person, then you have an infinite desire to know everything about that person. I know that is true for me, but this felt like the wrong way to go about getting information. Again, completely benign, but it cut that person out of it. If love is to have a relationship with another person, than some information should come out of interaction with that person directly. Kind of like if I decide to have a relationship with a particular saint, and I research the saint and talk to people about that saint, but never actually engage that saint in conversation or pray to him or her. There’s something wrong with that interaction. Not that the research or the conversation about the saint was bad, but that there was something lacking. An absence of intimacy. Or a detachment which shouldn’t be there.
A lesson to me that a person is not a thing to be loved, but a person to be loved — which is a particular lesson for me. Let me say again, how truly glad I am that I God gave me this person, and that He is using him in this way. Please, Lord, bless him and keep him in Your love.
Thanks to Annie! 🙂
“When God leads you to the edge of the cliff, trust Him fully and let go, only 1 of 2 things will happen; either He’ll catch you when you fall, or He’ll teach you how to fly!”
This year, Lindsay, Terry and I are studying Jeff Cavins‘s Adventures in Matthew, part of the Great Adventure series. I am so excited to be starting Bible study again! I have really missed it since last year. We started off the “school year” right, with Lindsay bringing a delicious dinner of lasagna with home-grown veggies, and grapes to snack on during class. I thought it was hilarious. Less than 2 years ago, I wasn’t even thinking of joining the Church. 1 year ago, I was just starting going to daily Mass and getting more involved. Now, we are taking over the social hall dining room/silverware for our dinner — we are moving in! 🙂
Here is the scene this morning, as I have taken the day off to **finally** have my dryer delivered (Yay! I can actually do my laundry at home! Read more on the laundry saga here):
As you can see, I have my Bible (kind of important, you know, for a Bible study), my Catechism (hiding under the Matthew binder), the binder for Adventures in Matthew containing the Questions and the Answers (promise, I won’t cheat — except if you count it to be cheating to answer your questions in front of the Tabernacle), paper/notes, and the ever-necessary Starbucks!
Yippee! I’m so excited to see what we will learn this year! Last year’s Great Adventure Bible Timeline was a great, great course for me, and really helped me to understand the stories of the Bible and to get some idea of the history (coming from no background at all, it gave me a MUCH needed foundation). I highly recommend this series to anyone wanting to get to know the Bible better.
Thanks to Ironic Catholic, who has saved me from bludgeoning my head against “Confessions” for another 10 minutes while I try to figure out what kind of person I am. I call it Remote Spiritual Direction…. 🙂
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Of course, I am not all that well versed in Jane Austen, but well, sometimes I like to do these little memes anyway. Thanks to Kasia, for posting the link on her blog.
You are Catherine Morland of Northanger Abbey! You love a good Gothic romance – so much, in fact, that you’ll fool yourself into thinking you’re living one! You are imaginative and naive, which is at once endearing and perplexing. Perhaps your heart is TOO pure…but it is adventurous. After all, you love a trip to Bath or a stay at an ancient Abbey.
Paroxysm of Giggles / Critical Mass 